there's difference between knowing & understanding

there's difference between knowing & understanding

Guys! Take time to read this! A REAL BOYFRIEND Don't care if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend right now.
I don't care if you are a guy or a woman. Just read this, it will make a difference. If only everyone could see this and understand it.

When she stares at your mouth Kiss her

When she pushes you or hits you like a dummy cause she thinks shes stronger than you , Grab her and don't let go
When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough, Kiss her and tell her you love her
When she's quiet , Ask her whats wrong
When she ignores you , Give her your attention
When she pulls away, Pull her back
When you see her at her worst , Tell her she's beautiful
When you see her start crying , Just hold her and don't say a word
When you see her walking ,  Sneak up and hug her waist from behind
When she's scared , Protect her
When she steals your favorite hoodie , Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night
When she teases you , Tease her back and make her laugh
When she doesn't answer for a long time , reassure her that everything is okay*
When she looks at you with doubt , Back yourself up
When she says that she loves you , she really does more than you can understand
When she grabs at your hands , Hold her's and play with her fingers*
When she bumps into you; bump into her back and make her laugh
When she tells you a secret , keep it safe and untold
When she looks at you in your eyes , dont look away until she does
When she says it's over , she still wants you to be hers*
When she reposts this bulletin she wants you to read it
When she's mad , hug her tight and don't let go
When she says she's ok . don't believe it , talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you*

- Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything*
- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her
- Treat her like she's all that matters to you*
- Stay up all night with her when she's sick
- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid
- Give her the world.
- Let her wear your clothes
- When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
- Let her know she's important*
- Don't talk about other girls around her
- Kiss her in the pouring rain
- When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is: "Whose ass am i kicking baby?"*

Girls Facts... porle khoti nai :)

Girls Facts... porle khoti nai :)

October 31, 2014 at 11:05pm

Girls don’t always say what’s really on their mind.

More often than not, what a girl says is not what’s really on her mind. This is because she wants a guy to chase after her and try to find out what she really means. Going after a girl really makes her feel like you care enough about what she’s really thinking. If you really want to know what’s on her mind, focus on the hints she drops. Also, focus on what she’s not saying – read her body language. You can take a course in body language for relationships.

Girls always think they could look prettier.

Twenty-first century media has presented an image of women who are thin, flawless, and sexy. Not all women come in such a perfect package, and girls frequently feel like they fall short of this distorted view on a woman’s beauty. You should always make sure your girl knows that she’s beautiful. Take an interest in her outfit, and compliment her natural beauty.

Feelings

Girls are the more emotional of the genders, but they also tend not to say anything about how they truly feel. They’ll say the opposite of what they’re really feeling, and their emotions have a tendency to get away from them. Here are a few key facts to look out for when trying to decide how your girl is feeling.

Girls will often answer “Are you okay?” in the opposite way of how they really feel.

Yes, movies joke about the ominous answer of “I’m fine” when a man asks her girl if she’s okay. Chances are, if the two of you were recently fighting, she doesn’t feel like things are settled. Your best bet for translating “I’m fine” is to think of it as, “How do you think I feel after that, you jerk?” Always try to figure out what you can do to really make things better between the two of you because girls will let things fester, and a small argument will turn into a huge blowout.

Girls usually get embarrassed far more easily than men.

The one thing you never want to do when your girl is embarrassed is tell her that it’s no big deal. It’s a big deal to her, and that’s all that should really matter to you too. Just listen to her, and try to understand why she was so embarrassed. Showing that her feelings are important to you will definitely win you brownie points in her eyes.

Girls will frequently answer “What’s wrong?” with “Nothing,” which is usually a lie.

One of the best ways to find out if she’s lying is to read her body language. If she’s smiling and seems relaxed, she’s serious when she means nothing’s wrong. However, if she looks tense, and she’s refusing to look at you or avoiding contact, it means that something is in fact wrong. Try to talk to her, and ask her about it. Letting her fester will only make the problem worse. Take a course in communication to help you talk to your girl.

Girls have strong emotions.

Don’t ever break your girl’s heart. If you do, things will never completely be the same again. Just as her strong emotions can be a bad thing if you make a mistake, however, they can work to your advantage if you’re a good guy. Maybe you have a stutter that you’re nervous about, or you might not really understand style. Your girl will completely overlook those small flaws because she’s in love.

Desires

Pleasing your girl could be very simple. They love nicknames and gifts, but they also love taking care of their guy. Here’s some more information on making a girl happy by fulfilling her desires. Create deeper connections with an online course.

Girls love nicknames.

You probably have a nickname for your girl already, and she more than likely loves it when you call her by it. If you don’t have one yet, keep these tips in mind. Avoid a nickname that puts her on a pedestal like “angel” or “princess.” Cute names like “baby” or “snuggle kitty” almost always win out over sexy nicknames.

Girls just want a shoulder to cry on.

When it comes to her problems, don’t always try to fix them. Sometimes, she just wants you to listen. If you keep telling her how she can make it better, you’re probably just going to irritate her. She’s not in the mood for a solution right now; she just wants to vent. Let her vent, or she’ll take her frustrations out on you instead.

Girls love doing things for their guys.

It is a rare girl that doesn’t want to take care of her partner. She probably buys you things, and she gets just as much joy getting it for you as you do in receiving them. If she cooks for you, it’s because she wants to. Don’t think that she feels obligated to take care of you; she just wants to do it to show you how much you mean to her.

Girls want a guy who will put them first.

Does your girl love to dance? If she asks you to dance, do it. Whether you know how to or not, she’s going to be touched that you set aside your own comfort for the sake of her happiness. Be protective of her, but don’t be jealous. Just because a guy is flirting with your girl doesn’t mean she’s going to run off with him. She’s probably just being polite. Take every chance you get to just cuddle your girl and show her affection.

Girls want gifts.

Buying your girl a gift is a great way to show you care, but don’t think that she’s a gold digger because she wants some material object. Your gift doesn’t even have to be expensive as long as it’s from the heart. Buy her a butterfly key chain because you remembered how much she loves butterflies. It might have only cost you $5, but it’ll be precious to her.

সম্পর্কে যতই মতবিরোধ হোক, মানুষের সঙ্গে থাকার একধরনের যে সাহচর্যের আরাম আছে

“একটি একা মেয়ে ইচ্ছে করলেই বাজার যেতে পারে, ডাক্তার এর সঙ্গে দেখা করে ওষুধ আনতে পারে । কিন্তু এসব করণীয় কাজ কেউ আন্তরিকতার সাথে করে দিলে একধরনের আরাম হয় । মনের আরাম । অলোকের কথা মনে পড়ে গেল তার ।ইচ্ছে করলেও মানুষটাকে ভুলে থাকতে পারেনা সে । সম্পর্কে যতই মতবিরোধ হোক, মানুষের সঙ্গে থাকার একধরনের যে সাহচর্যের আরাম আছে --- এ সবই এই একজীবনের জন্য মনের গায়ে গাঁথা হয়ে রইলো । অলোক আর কিছু না হোক খুব ভালো বন্ধু হয়েও তো থাকতে পারত ।” 
― Samaresh Majumdar

উত্তর মেরু যদি দক্ষিন মেরুর প্রেমে পড়েই যান...

" আজ একটা ব্যাপার realize করলাম। আমি আগে অনেক ভাবতাম যে কেন ছেলেমেয়েরা এক সম্পর্ক থেকে আরেক সম্পর্কে এতো ডিগবাজি খায়। আসলে শুধু ছেলেমেয়েরা না, বড় মানুষরাও। বড় মানুষরা in fact আরও বেশী।
ে ২৪ ঘণ্টা কি কারো প্রশংসা করে যাওয়া সম্ভব? সে রবীন্দ্রনাথ হলেও তো সম্ভব না।

তাই কিছুদিন পর যখন আমাদের আরেকটা নতুন মানুষের সাথে পরিচয় হয়, সে যখন আমাকে চিনতে শুরু করে আমার ছোট ছোট বিষয়গুলো তাকেও মুগ্ধ করে এবং যথারীতি সেও আমার প্রশংসায় পঞ্চমুখ ষষ্ঠমুখ সব হয়। আমাদের তখন স্বভাবতই মনে হয়, "আরেহ! এই নতুনজন তো আমাকে বেশি care করছে।" আর তখনি আমরা ডিগবাজি দেই। কারন দুনিয়ার সবচেয়ে বড় সত্য - মানুষ নিজেকে সবচেয়ে বেশি ভালবাসে। তাকে যে ভালবাসে সেও তাকেই ভালবাসে। সমাধান কি?
সমাধান হল - মন খুলে, হৃদয় খুলে, দরজা-জানালা সব খুলে প্রশংসা করে যান। শুধু একজন না, দুইজনই, সমানভাবে। মিথ্যে প্রশংসার প্রশ্নই আসছে না কারন যদি মিথ্যে প্রশংসা করতে হয় তাহলে ডিগবাজিই উত্তম। আমি বলছি express করার কথা।
আচ্ছা এটার তো একটা সমাধান হল। কিন্তু যদি এমন হয় - একজন introvert আর আরেকজন extrovert? একজন extreme introvert আর আরেকজন extreme extrovert? একজন ভালোবাসা প্রকাশই করতে পারে না, আর আরেকজন পৃষ্ঠার পর পৃষ্ঠা লিখে ফেলে? Then you are in serious trouble.
মানুষের basic কিন্তু বদলায় না। তাই যখন দুইজন introvert একসাথে থাকবে, তারা বুঝবে যে আমার partner আমাকে ভালবাসে কিন্তু সে আমার মতোই অরকম নাটকীয়তা পারে না। কিন্তু একজন extrovert ভাববে, "আমি তো কত creatively ভালবাসি, সে কেন পারবেনা? তাহলে কি সে আমাকে ভালইবাসে না?"
হ্যাঁ, বিপরীত চরিত্রের প্রতি আমাদের আকর্ষণ অদম্য এবং আজীবন কিন্তু কষ্টটাও কিন্তু অবধারিত। তাই সবার প্রতি পরামর্শ - নিজের সাথে কিছুটা মিল আছে এমন মানুষকে বিয়ে করুন। আকাশ আর মাটি কোনদিন মিলে নাই, মিলবেও না। মেলানোর চেষ্টা করতে গেলে শুধু দিগন্তের মিথ্যে রেখার পিছনেই ছুটবেন......
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